Without A Net

[sakon76]

I gave my notice at work yesterday. I'm going to be a stay at home mom. Which is kind of terrifying. I haven't been without a job/income for nearly twenty years. But even though my dad has been FANTASTIC at caring for my son, Squiddle deserves a parent to raise him, and Wonderful Husband and I deserve to not have our stress levels where they've been for the last month. One person staying at home and handling housekeeping and meals, not to mention us not having to hit the road running every morning to drop Squiddle off, will help with this.

Me being a homemaker will, of course, involve financial reassessment. Neither Wonderful Husband nor I want me to give up all external activities, like dance class or most especially my writing class. But I'll need to be cautious of our money from now on. Conventions may end up being curtailed.

So, starting a new stage of life. Equal parts elated and scared. We'll see how it all turns out.

Comments

[aishuu.livejournal.com]

Wow. Kudos for taking the risk - if you ever need online "adult company" distraction, let me know.

My mother was a stay at home mom for my first five years, and it made a hell of a lot of difference. I think that if you can work it financially, it's the right choice.

[tiamat1972.livejournal.com]

Good luck. Staying at home or working both have their challenges and I'm glad the choice was available to you. I had to make the other one. No regrets but I know exactly what you are saying about that stress level.

[velvetpaws.livejournal.com]

If I were ever going to be a parent, I would want to be a stay-at-home mom. I'm glad you're going to be able to give it a shot. Ganbatte! ^_^

[mmouse15.livejournal.com]

*hugs*

Scary, isn't it? I wish that I had made the decision sooner to quit work and stay home for my kids, but I'm glad that I finally got there. Yes, finances are tight, but I wouldn't trade what I have with my kids for any job. I hope that you find it more of a joy than a stress.

Oh, and a hint? Which you don't have to take, of course, but I wish someone had told me this. I finally figured it out at kid #3. Take time for yourself. Not just the writing class, but an hour or two every month without WH and Squiddle, just for yourself. Go to the beach, watch the sun set. Take a walk in a park. Sit in another room and read and don't respond to what's going on in the rest of the house. Write for an hour. Little bits of time that will save your sanity.

Good luck, and happy new year!

[playswithworms.livejournal.com]

Good luck with everything!

[cazcatharsis.livejournal.com]

Oh man. Good luck! *hug*

[tainry.livejournal.com]

Oooh a toughie! Good for you! Wanna be my minicon for Botcon...? ;D

[sakon76.livejournal.com]

For just a minute, I misread that as "wanna be my minion for Botcon," which is a delightful image in so many ways! :)

We'll see. okami_myrrhibis usually has someone who wants the toys but can't attend the con, so I go for them. If that doesn't end up happening this year, though, yes, definitely!

[tainry.livejournal.com]

Haha!

Sure, just holla. :D