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sakon76I think my fiance worries that I don't have fantasies about real people. I don't especially (have fantasies or worry about not having fantasies; take your pick) but I find it hard to explain why. So I'll take a shot here.
I'm a writer. That is a fundamental part of my nature. That means I deal with making things up all the time. I can write fanfiction or original fiction at the drop of a hat, and tend to. One thing which I cannot do, however, is write about real people. "Okay," you say, "but you've written about boyband members. How do you reconcile that?" I don't have to. For a long time, and even now, said boyband members were a fiction to me. I don't know any of them; how do I know they even really exist? They could be, like anything else you see on television, convenient fictitous personalities made up to earn a quick buck. They aren't real to me. Lance Bass of *N Sync isn't real to me. Nick Carter of BSB isn't real to me. They're idols, not people I know.
Still, even saying that, I have to acknowledge they have some kind of reality. I've been to their concerts; I know that on some level they do in fact exist. So it's tricky for me to write about them because they're not fiction.
What it all comes down to for me, I guess, is the inherent difference between reality and fiction. I know where it is and I can't cross that borderline. It is my limit. I can't fantasize about my fiance or anyone else *REAL* because reality is inherently inimical to the nature of fantasy. Thus, no sex fantasies. If that explains it well enough, which it probably doesn't.
*sigh* I sometimes think I'm a bad fiancee. He lives on another continent and calls me instead of me calling him because he can get decent phone rates. I call him in the dead of night for me and it still ends up $50 for a half-hour call. But he called me today while I was out shopping with my sister. This was for the second week in a row. And I didn't talk long with him because I was doing something. I feel bad about that. Shouldn't talking with him be more important than anything else? I think when we get married I want certain things in my vows. "Never go to bed angry" is one of them, and "Never take you for granted is another."
My aunt and uncle also came over today bearing lunch for my grandmother. They're helping to take care of her since my parents are in Jamaica for the next few weeks. My uncle and I, as always, ended up discussing anime. And the wedding, but I know nothing yet about when or where, so can't say much about it here. It turns out he's gotten into Hikaru no Go. Woohoo! Another convert for the fold! Seeing as it's his fault I like Inuyasha and Witch Hunter Robin, I consider this completely fair.
Anime Titles I Want Distributed By A Good Domestic Company:
(1) Hikaru no Go
(2) Hunter X Hunter
(3) Ayatsuri Sakon
(4) Witch Hunter Robin
(5) The Casefiles of Young Kindaichi
I'm a writer. That is a fundamental part of my nature. That means I deal with making things up all the time. I can write fanfiction or original fiction at the drop of a hat, and tend to. One thing which I cannot do, however, is write about real people. "Okay," you say, "but you've written about boyband members. How do you reconcile that?" I don't have to. For a long time, and even now, said boyband members were a fiction to me. I don't know any of them; how do I know they even really exist? They could be, like anything else you see on television, convenient fictitous personalities made up to earn a quick buck. They aren't real to me. Lance Bass of *N Sync isn't real to me. Nick Carter of BSB isn't real to me. They're idols, not people I know.
Still, even saying that, I have to acknowledge they have some kind of reality. I've been to their concerts; I know that on some level they do in fact exist. So it's tricky for me to write about them because they're not fiction.
What it all comes down to for me, I guess, is the inherent difference between reality and fiction. I know where it is and I can't cross that borderline. It is my limit. I can't fantasize about my fiance or anyone else *REAL* because reality is inherently inimical to the nature of fantasy. Thus, no sex fantasies. If that explains it well enough, which it probably doesn't.
*sigh* I sometimes think I'm a bad fiancee. He lives on another continent and calls me instead of me calling him because he can get decent phone rates. I call him in the dead of night for me and it still ends up $50 for a half-hour call. But he called me today while I was out shopping with my sister. This was for the second week in a row. And I didn't talk long with him because I was doing something. I feel bad about that. Shouldn't talking with him be more important than anything else? I think when we get married I want certain things in my vows. "Never go to bed angry" is one of them, and "Never take you for granted is another."
My aunt and uncle also came over today bearing lunch for my grandmother. They're helping to take care of her since my parents are in Jamaica for the next few weeks. My uncle and I, as always, ended up discussing anime. And the wedding, but I know nothing yet about when or where, so can't say much about it here. It turns out he's gotten into Hikaru no Go. Woohoo! Another convert for the fold! Seeing as it's his fault I like Inuyasha and Witch Hunter Robin, I consider this completely fair.
Anime Titles I Want Distributed By A Good Domestic Company:
(1) Hikaru no Go
(2) Hunter X Hunter
(3) Ayatsuri Sakon
(4) Witch Hunter Robin
(5) The Casefiles of Young Kindaichi
