1) Communication. We have an agreement that disputes must be resolved before we go to sleep. It...generally...is kept. Mind you, the discussions may be heated, but both Red and I are very bull-headed and by God the other party will KNOW WHAT WE THINK!
Way back when Daughter was very young, we were debating something back and forth when she burst into tears and begged us not to divorce. We asked why, and it turns out that one of her teachers told the class that couples who argue end up divorced. We started laughing and assured her that it was when we WEREN'T talking that she should be worried.
2) Respect for each others' space and finances. We follow the Lazarus Long adage "See to it that she has her own desk...and keep your hands off it!" We've got the bills divided between us, and generally if one needs some $$$ and the other has some, we share.
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Date: 2010-10-08 07:14 pm (UTC)1) Communication. We have an agreement that disputes must be resolved before we go to sleep. It...generally...is kept. Mind you, the discussions may be heated, but both Red and I are very bull-headed and by God the other party will KNOW WHAT WE THINK!
Way back when Daughter was very young, we were debating something back and forth when she burst into tears and begged us not to divorce. We asked why, and it turns out that one of her teachers told the class that couples who argue end up divorced. We started laughing and assured her that it was when we WEREN'T talking that she should be worried.
2) Respect for each others' space and finances. We follow the Lazarus Long adage "See to it that she has her own desk...and keep your hands off it!" We've got the bills divided between us, and generally if one needs some $$$ and the other has some, we share.
3) Divorce, never. Murder, occasionally. :)